Christmas season is here again. This is the season when all little girls and boys rush down from their beds to see just what Santa and their parents have brought them this year. It is the season to feel young again, the season to reconnect with loved ones and to spread joy around the world. Most of all it is the season to give.
Most of us have heard the saying, “It’s better to give than to receive” and we accept it as fact without so much as questioning it. Logically it doesn’t make much sense. If you are wearing a jacket on a cold day and you give it to somebody less fortunate, suddenly they have the jacket and you are cold. Giving didn’t help you, it only hurt you. At least that would be the first impression.
But giving out of love and genuine concern for someone else is not so cut and dry as that. When you give to others you get in return something money can’t buy. You get the warm feeling of seeing someone else feel good because of something you did.
You get the confidence of knowing that you have the power to help others out and to make them feel special. The feeling you gave to another person without expecting anything back in return goes unmatched in our society.
The joy you get from giving to others never fades away. It will remain in your hearts and in your soul long after that toy or gadget goes out of style.
Argument On Why Giving Isn’t Always Better Than Receiving
A common argument I’ve seen as to why receiving can be better than giving is that sometimes you need to receive. It is easy to trap yourself in the mindset that you need to do more so that you can give more. This can lead to depression when you hit rock bottom and when you simply need a generous soul to give you things and to help you get back on your feet.
The argument is that when we praise gift giving over gift receiving it make you feel bad about yourself when you receive gifts that others are giving you. By accepting gifts when you need them it makes you more humble in knowing that you can’t always do it yourself and sometimes you need a helping hand.
While it is true that giving is better than receiving for the spirit and for the mind, you should never be ashamed to accept gifts, especially if you need them. If you win more by giving that does not mean you lose by receiving. There are no winners and losers when it comes to gift giving, it is not a zero sum game!
It may be too easy to tell people not to give you anything for the holidays, but don’t be too humble to refuse to accept a gift. You don’t want to deny someone else’s joy of giving by refusing their gifts, just like you don’t want someone else to deny your joy of giving to them.
For that reason it is always best ton accept gifts, whether you need them or not you need them. Just accept the fact that you are loved when you get a gift and enjoy the fact that you can make others feel better when you give one.
If you are down on your luck and need to receive more than you get, fine, do what you need to do. But don’t forget to continue giving and continue thanking the world for what you have got. Don’t deny your spirit the joy of helping others and giving to others just because your pocketbook can’t afford it.
You don’t need to give something that costs a lot of money for it to be special. Think of the little drummer boy who had very little money, and couldn’t give baby Jesus something expensive, so instead he gave Jesus a song. It was still just as important and just as wonderful if he had given him gold or silver. And once more, it was free.
Even if all you can give is your love and service to another human being, it will still enrich your spirit and still make others feel important and special. So, enjoy the holidays, go out there and give to others. Whether you are a kind or a peasant, it is the season to remember other people and to make them feel loved. Never give up the chance to do something nice, especially for someone who deserves it.