On the other hand if you pollute your mind with mostly negative thoughts than you are drawing negative things into your reality which may stop you from reaching your goals and prevent you from finding true happiness.
The key to success is to be optimistic and to never underestimate what you are really capable of. If you can’t think positive you’ll never find opportunities that can help take you farther in life. It will also mean it is more difficult to go after the opportunities that you do find because if you can’t think positive than you won’t be able to sustain the effort and willingness needed to follow through on them.
When you learn how to be positive you start attracting things into your life that can help you advance farther. So, how can you do this? What are some strategies to lower the amount of negative thinking you do and increase the amount of positive thinking you do?
Surround Yourself With Positive People
It is hard to be positive when the people you surround yourself with are always bringing you down. Your reality is very much shaped by your friends and family because these are the people who are influencing your thoughts. They are either building you up to want to succeed and go after your dreams or breaking you down to make you want to give up on life.
It’s our natural instinct to want to fit in with the crowd and to be on the same level as everyone else. If you are always surrounded by people who are constantly complaining or who are always bringing you down than you are going to subconsciously inherit some of that negative thinking. It’s only natural that your environment helps shapes your personality, and therefore your life.
It is also natural for people to not want to feel left behind. If you are planning a major change in your life and are trying to break free than negative people will only hold you back. They will tell you that it can’t be done and give you reasons to quit trying.
Negative people make it hard to break free, to find opportunity, and to focus on the positive side of life.
Positive people are just the opposite. When you surround yourself with positive people you find support, energy, and new opportunities. Positive people will help you to improve your health, your finances, relationships, and your life in general.
They will give you the energy and inspiration needed to help stay afloat during bad times and to grow during the good ones. Positive friends are understanding, and they will try to pull you up there with them so that you can reach new heights which you never thought were possible before.
It can be pretty difficult to find new friends and to say goodbye to people in your life who are always bringing negativity into the room. But it is necessary if you want to learn how to be positive. You can’t be positive when people in your life are always polluting your mind with negative thoughts and holding you back. If you are in this situation you have to break free.
The best way to do this is to learn to maintain a positive attitude in your life. This will attract more positive people to you. Share with others, donate your time, invite positive people to hang out with you and your friends, and realize that positive people are out there and they are plentiful.
Sooner or later you’ll find that the more you remain positive the more positive people you will attract to your life. You’ll also find that the negative people in your life will either switch their mindset and start thinking more positively or they will completely disappear from your reality.
Positive vibes sometimes scare away people who don’t understand it. Everything happens together, when you focus on surrounding yourself with positive people it will undoubtedly help you to think more positively as their influence rubs off on you.
Focus On Positive Thoughts
Even the most optimistic people around have a bad thought here and there. The difference between optimism and pessimism is how often you have these thoughts and how much emphasis you put on each thought.
The key to getting rid of negative thinking isn’t to completely eliminate it from your mind. Bad thoughts are something that happens naturally and therefore some negative thoughts will always slip through to your mind no matter how often you try to avoid having them. If you do the same thing you may do with other habits (reward and punishment) you may never end up getting anywhere.
If you decide to punish yourself for each negative thought that you have that isn’t going to work. By doing this you’re bringing more negativity into your reality because you focus on the negative. You are assuming that you must be at fault for the bad thoughts that you have and that you are the one who needs to pay the price.
Punishing yourself when you have a negative thought isn’t going to help you become more optimistic at all, since the very act of wanting to punish yourself or to feel bad for thinking negative thoughts is a negative thought itself.
The answer to thinking more positively isn’t to focus on not thinking negatively, that is going to happen. The answer is to focus on the positive.
Whenever you have a positive thought expand it, let it grow, and try to branch it out. For example if you have a thought about a possible opportunity that you can go after hold that thought.
Write it down, expand it by seeing how you can improve that opportunity or look for other related opportunities that you can go after. Concentrate on that thought and brainstorm with it, see where it takes you.
On the other hand whenever you have a negative thought don’t punish yourself for having it. Just let it pass. Don’t give it much attention, don’t focus on it or acknowledge it for more than the two seconds it takes to go through your mind.
Instead continue to focus all of your energy on staying positive and expanding the positive ideas that you have.
Remember your brain is a muscle, what we don’t use we lose. If we put very little influence on our negative thoughts eventually those thoughts are going to slip away and have less of an impact on your life.
As you focus on the positive you will find that having positive thoughts becomes easier, seeking opportunity and joy becomes something that is much more common in your life. Optimism is a disease, and once you reach it, it will expand into all areas of your life. The more you focus on it the faster it will expand.
Realize Life Is A Game
You don’t have to feel bad about life whenever things don’t go your way or whenever things change. The world is always changing, life never sits still, and if there is one thing we can know for sure, it is that tomorrow will be a slightly different day than today.
The key to life is to look at it as a game that you can win. Instead of fearing the challenge of the everyday obstacles that come your way, embrace the challenge. Learn to fall in love with life and all of the challenges that it brings.
The reason there is so much change and so many obstacles in this world isn’t so we will have a headache, it is so that we can grow and expand. This ever-changing world is something we need to have if we want to follow our dreams and become the kind of person we seek to become.
If things where stable, there would be no opportunity. Our world would be dull, boring, and have no purpose. Life needs some sort of change to let new people become leaders and experience new things. Change can also help give you a push in the right direction when you are too afraid to do it yourself.
Creating your own reality is something that is only possible thanks to this change. Instead of focusing on the bad things that happen, focus on creating your life plan and on finding the ground you want to stand on.
Embrace that life is a game, and embrace that you are in control of your own reality. If you lose at the game don’t be discouraged. We all have bumps along the road, we all make mistakes.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and instead of focusing on the bad, realize that you simply made a wrong decision somewhere. Figure out what it was and remember it. Change it out, do something different next time.
Life is something that is meant to teach us. When we learn from our past and put what we learned into our future our possibilities are nearly limitless.
Look For The Opportunity
No matter what happens there is always opportunity. You may have heard the phrase, “when god closes a door he opens a window” even thought you may not know it at the time, whenever something bad happens in your life there is a way to recover from it and to become even stronger.
When I look back on my own life, many of the things that have caused me much pain and suffering, actually turned out to be a good thing. Sometimes I need a little kick, I need to see the door close in order to realize that there is an even bigger door right next to it, that I have been ignoring because I was comfortable in my life.
Sometimes you need to get pushed a little just to see what is right in front of you. Most of us have a lot more potential than we realize. There are a lot more doors to success and doors to happiness than we can keep track of.
If you are not on the right track in life and know it, I believe there is an invisible force out there that will guide you to your destiny. Focus on the opportunities in your life and focus on the future, rather than spending your time focusing on what has already passed.
If you are dealing with a stressful situation in life don’t look at it as a negative. Look at it as a learning experience. What changed? What can you take away from this experience that you can take advantage of?
Opportunities are always there, you just have to look for them. When you focus on the things that are waiting for you and the possibilities in life you automatically focus on the positive. Life is a game; it is built to have winners.
It is built for you to grow and shape your own reality. Never forget that a man with passion and determination can never be stopped. Your world is under your control, you really do have that much power. And I think looking at life from this perspective makes it very easy to stay positive and to look at the world from an abundance mindset.