How Overthinking Things Can Set You Back


overthinking thingsWhen I was in High School and starting Collage, I had a different understanding of the world. I knew what I wanted, but I imagined I did not yet know enough to get it.

Like most teenage boys I wanted to find the girl of my dreams, but I didn’t know how to do that. I didn’t know what to say to them that would make them want to go out with me and be mine.

I could always talk to them and make them laugh. Girls would always get a crush on me and think I was an attractive person. The problem was I didn’t know what to do after that.

I wanted to be cool. I didn’t want to make the wrong move and do or say something that would make a girl who liked me not like me anymore. I simply starting, overthinking it. Instead of simply inviting them to do something or made a move, I thought that I wasn’t ready to do it. I figured there was still so much I should know about girls before I could ask them out.

I was overthinking it so much that when a girl started flirting with me I wanted to back away, because I didn’t think I was ready to flirt back. I wanted to think about what I should have done, read some more, and talk about it to others. I overanalyzed it and as a result I missed out on a lot of great opportunities in the past.

I overthought things so much so that my first girlfriend was literally flirting with me for 2 years before I had the courage to ask her out. It was a great experience, but after a year, I ended up single again and still not wanting to take any chances with women.

Eventually I realized that I the only way I was going to get anywhere was to stop overanalyzing everything and just go for it. I just took the leap, talked to strangers, and flirted around. The next few years were some of my most memorable.

I had plenty of crazy stories, did some things I probably shouldn’t have done, had some heart breaks, and fell in love.

Despite my fears and doubts everything turned out ok. I made some big mistakes, but I learned from them. All and all my life turned out much better and I wouldn’t have ended up with my lovely wife without first taking the jump.

My story isn’t exactly a unique situation, we all tend to overthink things from time to time. We overthink what we look like, how we act, how we invest our money, how we earn money. And each and everytime we overthink things we are stopping ourselves from taking action.

By overthinking before we act we set up barriers. We try talk ourselves out of doing things to start telling ourself why we can’t do something rather than just do it.

Overthinking prevents us from taking action and keeps us researching on the side and reading about the success of others while the rest of the world passes us by. Reading is great and there is a lot to learn from successful people of the past, but eventually you simply have to put down that book and start taking action to achieve your goals.

Life becomes a lot less difficult when you don’t focus on every little detail and try to make everything perfect.

It’s even more important when you realize that the majority of people do not put very much thought into life. If you are constantly, overthinking things you may find out that everyone else has already taken action and you are the one left behind.

You just have to take chances in life. That is the only way to learn what to do and figure out what you truly want out of life.

Obviously, you want to keep learning, reading, and observing the world around you. You don’t want to blindly jump in and make a fool out of yourself or lose all of your money on a bad deal, but don’t wait too long. If you spend too much time studying and planning life can pass you by in the meantime.

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One thought on “How Overthinking Things Can Set You Back

  1. Don @ Breath of Optimism

    I used to over-analyze a lot in my previous relationships as well. I couldn’t let things go and would constantly sit on things that happened and keep replaying them in my head. I usually ended up thinking the worst when in reality, the truth was far from it. Once I developed a stronger self-esteem, I began to over-analyze less and less.

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