Too many people connect their happiness with external factors. We care too much about simple things such as how much money is in our bank, how many people care about us, and whether or not we have that special someone in our life.
While it is good to have nice things, it doesn’t mean it will make us happy or that lack of something will make us sad. A problem emerges when we use our material possessions and our current situation to determine whether we are going to be happy in life.
It is easy to want to compare ourselves with others or to compare our current situation with our dreams, but when we do it is easy to overlook the good parts of our lives and only focus on what we lack. It’s easy to forget about all the people who love you in your life when you only focus on how much money you earn compared to someone else.
By comparing ourselves with others and focusing on what we don’t have we start to lower our mental state and think negatively. Could it be that we just aren’t lucky enough to have a good life? Are we not smart enough? Maybe we just don’t have the right talent to succeed in life.
Focusing on this, looking at the negatives, and complaining about life is a sure way to depression, even when your life as a whole is actually going pretty good.
Life is complex. Anything can happen. We can try our best to predict and create the future we’ve always wanted, but there will always be uncertainty and opportunities out there. Life is filled with ups and downs, we all have them.
Just because you are down on your luck now doesn’t mean you should feel sad about it or give up on it, things happen. You can’t let your emotions be dictated by whether you had a good day or a bad one. If you do, you’ll have to be prepared for a lot of crazy mood swings because they will inevitably follow you around with that way of thinking.
Sure our mood may be temporarily influenced by the short term rollercoaster ride of life. But over the long term happiness is a choice. Only you can decide if you are going to let that break up or bad beat keep you from living.
Only you can decide to be happy and to fall in love with the challenges of life rather than complain about them.
Happiness doesn’t need to be about material possessions, in fact it shouldn’t be. Happiness comes from within. Read my article on how to find inner peace for more information on this.
Happiness is a commodity that can be enjoyed regardless of your income status or lifestyle. It doesn’t matter what life has thrown at you or what your luck has been like lately. You just need to learn to love yourself and the world around you.
Maintaining a positive attitude and looking for solutions to your problems before throwing in the towel can not only have a major impact on your health and success in life. It can also impact how good you feel while you are around. It makes life that much better and makes the world a more powerful place to live in.
Believe that you are capable of doing great things and learn to fall in love with life. You only get one shot at this life; do you want to spend it sad and miserable or optimistic and happy?
The choice is up to you. Only you can decide whether you want to let the little things bother or whether you want to embrace the world and all the wonders that it brings.
When you look at life from a grand scale it turns out that the little things don’t really matter as much. So you missed the bus or made a fool out of yourself in public, big deal, time goes by people forget and you get over it.
The big things in life on the other hand like your family, friends, and passions, will always stay there. They will always be around, still be important to you as the years go by.
Do you really want to miss the big things simply because you were too busy focusing on the bad? Or do you want to stay positive, find the things you want out of live and learn to love every moment you have on this earth?
We can’t always get everything we want, but we can be happy and learn to embrace our life for what it offers. Happiness is a choice, and it is a choice that we all have to make each and every single day of our lives. What will you pick? Do you want to be happy?