Throughout my life, I have been hearing people repeating the same old lies about how successful people are just lucky and how “average people” cannot be as successful as someone else simply because of our own bad luck.
We, all do it. It is a lot easier to think of reasons why our dreams will not succeed then it is to actually follow our dreams and push for the life we imagine. But doing so only limits our ability to achieve remarkable things and to have remarkable adventures.
It is important to recognize the difference between lies we tell ourselves from the fundamental truths of this world, if only to just bring new hope and ideas into our lives and in the lives of those around us. So, let’s dive right into it. Here are some common myths we tell ourselves about success.
1. I Wasn’t Born Into A Rich Family So I Guess I Was Meant To Have An Average Life
In a world where 80% of millionaires are self made and inherited nothing from their families I find it hard to believe that being born into a rich family is the sole factor in determining how successful you will be in life.
While it may be easy to write off success as just something people are born with the fact of the matter is, YOU CONTROL HOW SUCCESSFUL YOU WILL BE IN LIFE!
Nobody else can force you to get up in the morning and start your day early. Nobody else can force you to think of new ideas and question the world around you. You are the only one that can determine where you want to go in life; it is not up to how rich your family is or your current status in society.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” George Bernard Shaw
Throughout history the ones who were successful in life were the ones who dared to dream and to move to accomplish their dreams, regardless of what situation they were in. Although we may all have hurdles in life, no hurdles are too great for someone who dares to reach for the stars.
2. Successful People Were At The Right Place At The Right Time
If you are like me I am sure you have at least heard this saying a few times in your life. It is the belief that people who are successful in life became successful simply because they were at the right place at the right time. In other words it was all down to luck.
I am not saying that a little luck wasn’t involved; there is some truth to this. Plenty of people got their break in this world by being in the best possible situation to succeed. But this is not the whole story.
You not only have to be at the right place at the right time, you also have to know how to put the pieces together and make something out of it. The only way to learn how to do this is to be consistently learning by taking chances in life and learning what works through trial and error. This is another reason why you need to take chances in life.
The more chances you take the more you learn. The more you learn the better off you will be when opportunity comes knocking at your door. And it’ll come knocking one way or the other.
“The harder I work, the luckier I get.” Samuel Goldwyn
To say that you have to get lucky in life to succeed is kind of misinformation. Opportunity knocks at all of our doors at one time or another; the only difference is most of us don’t have the key. Most of us do not know how to unlock the door and bring that opportunity into our lives.
I admit that I have thrown away many opportunities in life because I didn’t know how to unlock the door at the time. But as we keep learning and growing the key becomes easier to find and we find ourselves in the right place at the right time more often.
3. Successful People Are Smarter Then Me
Another illusion we all have is that people who are successful are smarter than the average joe. While there are some smart people who have become really successful in life, quite honestly there are an equal amount of dump people who have seen similar levels of success.
So, if intelligence isn’t the sole factor in determining how successful someone will be, what is it?
“Greatness is not achieved by never falling but by rising each time we fall.” Confucius
People who go farther in life are the ones who take chances and learn from them. Anytime you take a chance you will either succeed or you will fail. But regardless of what the outcome is, you will learn something new and this is the key to becoming a success..
Those who seem to be “luckier” are simply father along in the road of life. They have simply tried more things and as a result they know more about how the world works. The only way to catch up is to take more chances.
4. I’ll Do It Tomorrow, I Don’t Feel Motivated To Do It Right Now
For me, this is a big one. It is so easy to want to simply say, “I am not motivated right now, I can do it tomorrow when I am more motivated”. The sad truth is that motivation is a trap.
If you wait to get motivated before you take action then you are missing out on a lot of the time which could have been spent working towards your dreams. Successful people work through their lumps.
They don’t wait for motivation to kick in; they stay consistent and work to achieve their goals regardless of how they feel. Motivation will come, but you can’t always rely on it.
Instead of waiting until tomorrow to do something, do it now so that you can do something else tomorrow.
5. I Don’t Have The Time
Time is our most precious commodity, without time we can’t do much of anything. That is why it is so easy to use time as an excuse to not start something new or to not go after a dream. To a certain extent there is some truth involved when we say, “I don’t have the time”.
There are only so many hours in the day. Each hour can only be used doing one thing. At the same time, most of us are time wasters. We don’t have time to research ideas for that new business, but if “Pawn Stars” comes on T.V. suddenly we have a half an hour of free time.
Take some time after reading this post to write down a few things that you do on a regular basis. Next examine the list and figure out which ones really do not help you in life. I’m sure you will find that you waste a lot of time on things that don’t help you to either grow in life or to build relationships with others.
Some examples of time wasters are;
• Watching T.V.
• Surfing The Web
• Video Games
• Reading about news for faraway places which don’t even affect your life
6. Bad Things Always Happen To Me
As humans we tend to want to believe that if we are unsuccessful at something it is because we are just unlucky. It takes the pressure off our shoulders. If the world has other plans for us then we are helpless when it comes to controlling our destiny.
Whenever you feel like that, remember, you are not that special. The universe is not going out of its way to keep you from achieving your dreams. If you have a plan in life and work to achieve it there is very little this universe can do to prevent you from reaching your goal.
We all have hurdles in life. You are not unique to having to overcome challenges. The trick is to learn from those challenges and try not to let them slow you down too much.
7. My Success Determines How Happy I Am
Happiness is not determined by how much money you have in the bank or whether or not you have a great lover. If you are not happy without having great things then getting great things is not going to suddenly make you happy.
Happiness comes from within. You have to learn to appreciate life for what it is. You have to learn to accept your life and who you really are because you are unique and nobody else will ever have the same experiences as you do. Nobody else quite thinks like you do and nobody else will have the same life experiences as you.
Never look outside of yourself to determine how happy you are. If you do then you will always want more and you will never be satisfied at what you have already done.
In the end one of the most basic measurements in your life is how happy you manage to stay and weather you are truly working to live the life that you want to live.