A Lesson about Judging Others

1We’ve all heard not to judge others and that every time we point our finger
at someone 4 fingers are pointing back to us. We’ll I’d like to share a neat little story with you that I found on the web. There is a lot of wisdom in it.

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside. “That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”

Her husband looks on, remaining silent. Every time her neighbor hangs her wash to dry, the young woman makes the same comments.

A month later the woman is surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and says to her husband: “look, she finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her to do this?” The husband replies, “I got up early this morning and cleaned out windows” And so it is with life… What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the window through which we look.

You see we all like to judge others and have our say. In fact gossip is believed to be one of the first thing humans talked about when they first learn to speak. So it should be no surprise that one of the oldest traditions in human civilization has carried forward to today.

The problem with judging another human being is that they have experiences and lessons that you have not. They may have their own reasons to do what they do, just like you have your own reasons you do what you do. Instead of judging other people, here are a few things you can do instead.

Learn From Them

Other people may have their own reasons for doing what they do. Instead of mocking and judging them, see if there is anything you can learn from them. You may judge someone else for “being cheap” but they mght have learned the hard way that having money saved up is an important step in life.

You might actually learn something from people who have different perspectives then you. Sam Wilson the creator of Walmart once said “To succeed in this would you have to change all the time”

Changing all the time does not mean once, you are set in your ways you are automatically correct. It means you need to be open to new perspectives, and new ways of thinking. You need to be curious about the unknown before you judge it.

Even if you still believe your way is the correct way, it doesn’t hurt to think about others and ask why they made a decision they did before you judge them.

Ignore Their Faults

Sometimes people do things that are just bad for them and the people around them. We all have habits we should break, and if you want to help others break their bad habit that is great.

But, sometimes you just have to forgive people for doing something wrong and ignore it. I’m not a smoker, but I have no problem allowing other people to smoke, as long as it doesn’t affect me. If they want to make that decision it is up to them, and I don’t think me or anyone else should tell them what to do.

Now if someone comes to me and asks me to help them quit smoking, I’ll gladly help them out, but I’m not going to force someone to change if they don’t want to.

Find People With Your Views

Being around people with different viewpoints can be a great way to expand your mind and open you up to new realities. But if you have such a big problem with another person and you can’t ignore it, then nobody is stopping you from finding other people to bring into your life.

You don’t have to focus on the people who you don’t agree with. Let them make their own choices and you can make yours. If you want to hang out with people who share your own perspective, you can. This world is pretty big, I’m sure you’ll find someone who you can get along with.

Help Them Through Life

You can always help them throughout their life. If you don’t think someone is doing something right, you can help them out by showing them the way you think it should be done. They might just learn something and you might create a bond between you and another person as they see you are trying to help them.

Don’t force them to agree with you, don’t turn it into an argument, but offer some advice that they can choose to accept or not. Remember, they are ultimately the ones who are going to determine how they live, and they are ultimately the ones who are going to make their own mistakes. Regardless of what you say people will always do what they think they should.

Be there to show them the right way, and help them when they fall, but don’t judge them and cause a fight, it isn’t worth losing a friendship over to prove your point.

You don’t want to be judged by others so return the favor.

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How To Cut The Amount Of Drama You Create By 90%

1We all have that person in our lives that thrives on drama. They seem to always be in the middle of it and it seems to always follow them around. If you know someone like that in your life, send them this article to help them cut back and have a less stressful life. If you’re the person whom drama follows around, take heart of what we will have to say here.

There is one sentence that can eliminate 90% of the drama that you create!

But before I get into that I have a word of caution. This sentence that I am about to tell you only helps reduce the amount of drama that you personally put off into the world.

Others may still cause drama themselves and may want to drag you into it. Eliminating drama from your life completely is a mix between lowering the drama you create and reducing the amount of influence that high drama people have in your own life.

So back to the sentence, before we go into how to reduce the drama you put off into the world we need to look at what drama is exactly.

Drama is born when 2 or more people have a conflict with one another. This can happen in a friendship, a relationship, or a sibling rivalry. It normally happens because one person expects something from another and is unhappy if it does not happen.

For example if we;

• Expect someone to help us out and they can’t make it
• Expect someone to be faithful and they are not a faithful person
• Expect someone we like the automatically like us back
• Expect someone who doesn’t care for us to treat us as well as we treat them

If we expect that others must do something or fall into our own viewpoint, then we create a trigger for drama. We create something that causes drama in the world.

So by definition, the easiest way to reduce drama is to realize something (hint it’s the sentence that eliminates drama)

We cannot control what people say and do.

People are imperfect. We all make mistakes and everyone you know (including me and you) is going to make some mistakes in our lives.

It is up to everyone to make their own mistakes and it is also up to them to learn from them. Another person may treat you poorly and you may decide that it just isn’t worth the drama to have them in your life. That is a mistake they have to make and they have to deal with.

You can’t change someone. You can help others along by giving them advice or motivating them to do something, but you can’t make them do something they just aren’t going to do.

In that case it is up to you to realize that nobody is perfect. People will be people and you have to either love them for it, ignore the flaws, or in extreme situations separate yourselves from those who you cannot stand.

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself. A close friend canceling your meetup at the last minute will not, in it of itself be a big deal. What will make it a big deal is the emphasis we put on it.

If we can let it go and realize that they may be a flake or they may have a legitimate reason or something else may have happened, then we reduce our stress and destroy drama before it is created.

Should We Not Expect Anything?

Just because expecting something from others causes drama does not mean we can stop expecting stuff. We need to count on other people in our lives. We need to have some faith in the ones we love.

But we need to trust people who have earned our trust and we need to be understanding when something doesn’t go our way. Nobody is infallible, and most things aren’t worth causing stress over.

We also need to look internally because we can control what actions we take, and that may affect what actions others take.

Before blaming others completely for cheating on you look to see if there was something you did to run them off, before blaming others from freeloading think about how you could have invited it. There may not be something you did wrong, but there also may be a lesson you can learn for the future.

During times of extreme drama it may be hard to look internally and see if you could have helped create it. But that is the only way to learn from it and the only way to prevent it from happening again.

Drama is a manmade creation. If we understand that people make mistakes and we look internally before judging others, we eliminate our stress and gravitate to a more peaceful way of life.

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8 Simple Self Improvement Ideas That Work If You Do Them

We always are on the lookout for self improvement ideas that work, but to be honest there is only so much that you can learn by reading. To be truly successful in life you need to make sure you have a balanced life and that you are actually putting forth the effort to do the things you want.

Here are some self improvement ideas that sound pretty basic, but if you are doing them day in and day out, they can lead to a much better life.

1. Eat Right

Too many people are filling their stomach with junk, crap, and corn syrup then can’t figure out why they aren’t losing any weight or why they are extremely unhealthy. Eating right is just one of the basic things we do.

When we choose salads instead of fatty foods and choose tea instead of soda, not only do we start improving our health, but we start feeling better and have more energy to do the things we love.

Another advantage to creating a habit of healthy eating is that as we eat healthier foods we get used to them and all of a sudden healthy foods taste better then unhealthy ones. It is all about tastes and our tastes change based on what we eat.

2. Believe In Yourself And Think Positively

No matter what is going on in your life you have to know that you are fully capable of achieving your goals and getting past the hard parts in life. When you face stressful situations, the least productive thing you can do is to worry about it and start freaking out.

Instead, just continue along life’s path and believe in yourself. As long as you are making an effort to improve and you have a positive attitude things will work out for the best.

3. Don’t Forget To Work At It

It is important to remember that nothing actually happens by itself. If you are simply waiting around for someone else to solve your problems you will never get anywhere in life. The only way to improve your life is to turn off the T.V. , stop searching facebook, and start doing something that will improve your situation.

You will not improve your situation overnight. But as long as you keep pushing through and keep having a positive attitude you can accomplish some amazing things You can have anything you want out of life, but you’ll have to work for it.

Nothing is free in this world. Since the dawn of time, those who took action and tried the hardest to achieve their goals always had more fruitful lives and accomplished a lot more during their lives then those who never took the first step.

4. Spend Time With Loved Ones

Of course money and success isn’t everything. There is no point having everything you’ve ever wanted if you have nobody left to share it with. Be sure to make time for others and put down your books to play with others.

Not only will spending time with others help keep those you love in your life, but it will also help relieve your stress and make memories with others.

5. Don’t Stop Learning

Our mind is a beautiful thing. It can learn so much and can help us through so many difficult situations. But we have to keep learning in order to keep it at its peak. Most people stop reading after they are done with school.

But those who keep reading and keep learning will have an edge in the world.
As we stay fascinated about the world around us we learn new ways to improve our lives, we become more valuable as a human being, and we lead a more interesting life in general.

The greatest men in history were all curious and they never stopped learning. The pursuit of knowledge might not always be the most popular way of living life, but it is certainly worth it.

6. Listen To The Advice Of Others

When we are given advice from others we can either choose to completely ignore it, take it as an insult, or learn from it and use it in our own lives. There is really no point in ignoring it or taking it as an insult.

The mere fact that they are giving you advice means they care about you enough to try and help you out. Don’t be so quick to dismiss other people’s ideas. They may know something you do not, they may have been in your situation before, and it may actually benefit you. But you will never know unless you stop and listen to it.

7. Learn From Your Mistakes

Everybody makes mistakes. It is easy to feel bad about them and to feel like we are a failure, or we can learn from them. Be excited that you will get to learn something new instead of sad that you did something you shouldn’t have done.

8. Don’t Forget To Enjoy Today

There comes a time in everyone’s life where we realize that life has gone by so fast. During this time we have to not only ask ourselves what we accomplished in our life, but whether it was worth it. The simple fact is that we won’t be here again, so we had better learn to enjoy today while it last.

We only live once, let’s make it count for something.

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Worried_People_5[1]It’s never my fault! I’m just the victim. Things would have been better if not for my bad luck! Does this sound familiar? Have you blamed others or life for the situation that you are in? Were you really wrong to?

It is natural for us to convince ourselves that we were the victim and that there wasn’t anything we could have done to make things work out better for us. Whether we do this consciously to persuade others or unconsciously to persuade ourselves, it’s never our fault.

Playing the victim helps you win arguments, it helps you gain higher ground, but rarely does it help you grow as a person. Going through tough times is just a part of life. Sometimes we need to struggle a little to get where we want to be.

But if at any time you feel like a victim, here are 8 reasons to stop seeing yourself as one and move on.

1. You Lose Control

When you start believing that you are a victim in life you are admitting to yourself that your destiny is beyond your control. It only makes sense, you didn’t have control over your life in the past and the world has pushed you around, what makes you think you will do any better in the future.

Believing you are a victim is a very depressing way to live because it makes you feel inferior to those around you. When you focus on what has happened in your life that you can’t control you stop focusing on what you can control, and that is when you lose your power.

2. Negative Thinking

Einstein once said that there are two ways to look at the world, one where everything in a miracle and one where nothing is. When you believe you are a victim you are succumbing to the negative thinking that brings scarcity and loneliness to your world.

Negative thoughts only attract negative things. It is impossible to find the good when you are always looking for the negatives.

Switching that around and looking for the positives in the world will not only make life much more enjoyable, but it will also mean your future is not weighed down by something negative that has happened in your past.

3. It Only Justifies A Failure

Us humans are remarkably good at justifying things. We can pretty much justify anything we want to ourselves as long as we try. Sometimes it is a stress reliever when we tell ourselves that there was nothing we could have done or calm ourselves down.

Other times it simply works against us. As we tell ourselves that our life was ruined by some outside object and there is nothing we can do. When we tell ourselves that we don’t have the power to change our surroundings we tend to give up too easily.

On the other hand when we take some responsibility for the events in our lives, even the ones we had little control over, we start making a plan to improve upon the future and become much stronger people.

There is a lot of power in blaming yourself. It allows you to take control of your circumstances and make changes that will improve your life.

4. Nobody Cares About Your Life As Much As You

When we are kids we are taught to cry when we want something or to make ourselves appear to be the victim when we want someone else to stand up for us. But as we get older it becomes more obvious that you are the one who cares most about your circumstances.

You can complain or try to get sympathy all you want, but nothing in your life will change until you tell yourself that you are strong and you can get past it. You need to take action and move forward, if you do it doesn’t matter what your circumstances are today because they will soon change for the better.

5. Life Goes On

Life keeps going on, you can either complain about what has happened to you or you can live life to its fullest. I know when you are going thtough a hard time it is very difficult to assume that it will all get better, but believe me it will.

Instead of sitting around stressing or worrying, go for a walk. Look around you. Notice that the world is still intact and there is always a chance for a comeback.

6. There Is Always The Future

When you look backwards and think about the past, you forget the future. Sometimes playing victim even if it means you will get back at someone who hurt you in the past isn’t worth the loss it has on your future.

Don’t spend so much time dreading the past and feeling sorry for yourself that you forget to enjoy the present and plan for the future. What has passed, has passed. We can’t change it, but we can change the future.

7. You Will Always Have The Memories

If you are dealing with loss, remember that the memories will always be there. You don’t have the be sad that it ended as long as you can remain happy that it happened. Take the positives that you learned from your past and put them to good use.

Take the negatives, learn from them, but don’t focus on them. Become a stronger person for the experience and have fun with the future.

8. It Breaks The Chain

There are two sides to every story. While you are over here talking about how someone else ruined everything they might be on the other end talking about how you ruined everything.

Why not exclude yourself from the name calling and sympathy seeking adventure? Rise above it and look straight ahead. You don’t have to be the victim if you don’t want to, so why take on the role?

It’s easy to want to be the victim, and sometimes we are affected by forces beyond our control. But the second you stop thinking as yourself as a victim and decide to make a change is the second your life will take a turn for the best.

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A Common Lie We Tell Ourselves To Sabotage Our Success

1I’ve been running online businesses for years now. It has been a fun experience and has taught me a lot about the world of business and about life in general. One thing I have noticed along the way is that we tend to tell ourselves little lies that can get in the way of our success.

I’m sorry to say that I’ve been guilty of this as well. My sites were getting most of their traffic from the search engines. Anybody who has marketed things online knows that the search engines are constantly changing and updating their algorithm.

In fact Google alone makes hundreds of different changes to their algorithm each year. This means the way they rank sites is changing hundreds of times each year and every online business can see their traffic and sales shoot up or down based on those changes.

Of course the goal of these changes is to improve and serve up better content to the people searching online and most of the time if you provide great content it doesn’t affect you very much. But sometimes it can have big effects on your business.

A few years back my main site fell in the search engine rankings. I tried to change it, but eventually I moved on. What was worse, I gave up creating great content sites altogether, saying that the times have changed and that it was harder to make money online then it used to be.

I could have always created new sites and promoted them like crazy to rebuild my business, but I didn’t put the time and effort into it. My thinking was that “if everything can just change in an instant what is the point to working so hard for it?” Well that sort of thinking was flawed!

That was my trap. What I should have done was find out why I lost my business and find out how I can build others that would not fail the same way. Who knows where I would have been if I spent my time rebuilding my business and learning from my past mistakes.

I fell into a trap when that happened, and it is a trap I see a lot of people falling into. People simply want to believe that if they are failing at something it is because the times have changed and that they would have been successful if they were just doing it a few years earlier.

It doesn’t take long before you see people talking on online forums or you hear people talking offline about how things are different now and you can’t be successful because of some weird reason.
Some common excuses I see are;

It’s impossible to find a job because the economy is bad and employers just aren’t hiring
My business used to make money, but the market has changed and I can’t make money in the new business

My business can’t make money with all these new competitor’s in the market
Times have changed and people just can’t afford what I am selling/marketing/promoting/offering

It’s easy to come up with these excuses, and that is exactly what most people do when times get hard. Nowhere is this more apparent than when you are dealing with the online world.

The internet is constantly changing, the rules change, new sites pop up, new competitors enter the market, and things simply change, all the time.

Seeing all these things changing it is easy to believe that the world isn’t the same world we used to know, even when you realize that nothing really major happens. The world is still basically the same place has always been. Some minor rules may change, but the world still goes on.

There’s no use worrying about changing times or use it as an excuse it only wastes your time, robs you of success, and may even drag you into a depression.

What To Do Instead?

Instead of worrying about changing times and using it as an excuse to fail, embrace change as you see it. Learn from it and take it as a growing opportunity. If the market is changing look for ways to change with it.

For instance if you truly believe the job market is slow or will be slow, look for ways to differentiate yourself. People with unique skills will always be in demand. Another option would be to simply try harder and fill out more applications and knock on more doors.
Regardless of what you believe keep pushing harder. The world hasn’t fallen to pieces and a slow economy doesn’t mean that businesses can suddenly stop hiring or people can suddenly stop buying things they need or want.

When things get slow or seem to be harder use it as a way to get better at what you do and try harder. That way you can still survive the hard times and when things turn around again you will be a much stronger person and in a great position to take advantage of it.
Maybe what you have done in the past doesn’t work as well today, and if that is the case embrace the change as a learning experience and find another path to the same goal. Your mind will expand and your creativity will help you in other areas of life as well.

Final Tips

Change is going to happen. It is a major part of life. It’s hard in all aspects of life, but it can be hard to overcome mentally. When change has to do with your job or business, it can be even more stressful because you need money to pay the bills. In this case it is always good to have some savings or another source of income to make things easier on you. Saving money and preparing for a rainy day when times are good is just a smart thing to do after all.

Know that change will happen. Don’t be afraid of it, don’t assume that it will be the cause of your successes or failures. Only you can make that decision. Don’t be afraid of change, because we all have to deal with it, and we all have to find a way to reach our goals regardless of what comes our way.

Have you told yourself that things have changed and that you can’t be successful with the new environment? Have you overcome that negative thinking and just pushed through to find success? Tell us about it by commenting below.

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overthinking thingsWhen I was in High School and starting Collage, I had a different understanding of the world. I knew what I wanted, but I imagined I did not yet know enough to get it.

Like most teenage boys I wanted to find the girl of my dreams, but I didn’t know how to do that. I didn’t know what to say to them that would make them want to go out with me and be mine.

I could always talk to them and make them laugh. Girls would always get a crush on me and think I was an attractive person. The problem was I didn’t know what to do after that.

I wanted to be cool. I didn’t want to make the wrong move and do or say something that would make a girl who liked me not like me anymore. I simply starting, overthinking it. Instead of simply inviting them to do something or made a move, I thought that I wasn’t ready to do it. I figured there was still so much I should know about girls before I could ask them out.

I was overthinking it so much that when a girl started flirting with me I wanted to back away, because I didn’t think I was ready to flirt back. I wanted to think about what I should have done, read some more, and talk about it to others. I overanalyzed it and as a result I missed out on a lot of great opportunities in the past.

I overthought things so much so that my first girlfriend was literally flirting with me for 2 years before I had the courage to ask her out. It was a great experience, but after a year, I ended up single again and still not wanting to take any chances with women.

Eventually I realized that I the only way I was going to get anywhere was to stop overanalyzing everything and just go for it. I just took the leap, talked to strangers, and flirted around. The next few years were some of my most memorable.

I had plenty of crazy stories, did some things I probably shouldn’t have done, had some heart breaks, and fell in love.

Despite my fears and doubts everything turned out ok. I made some big mistakes, but I learned from them. All and all my life turned out much better and I wouldn’t have ended up with my lovely wife without first taking the jump.

My story isn’t exactly a unique situation, we all tend to overthink things from time to time. We overthink what we look like, how we act, how we invest our money, how we earn money. And each and everytime we overthink things we are stopping ourselves from taking action.

By overthinking before we act we set up barriers. We try talk ourselves out of doing things to start telling ourself why we can’t do something rather than just do it.

Overthinking prevents us from taking action and keeps us researching on the side and reading about the success of others while the rest of the world passes us by. Reading is great and there is a lot to learn from successful people of the past, but eventually you simply have to put down that book and start taking action to achieve your goals.

Life becomes a lot less difficult when you don’t focus on every little detail and try to make everything perfect.

It’s even more important when you realize that the majority of people do not put very much thought into life. If you are constantly, overthinking things you may find out that everyone else has already taken action and you are the one left behind.

You just have to take chances in life. That is the only way to learn what to do and figure out what you truly want out of life.

Obviously, you want to keep learning, reading, and observing the world around you. You don’t want to blindly jump in and make a fool out of yourself or lose all of your money on a bad deal, but don’t wait too long. If you spend too much time studying and planning life can pass you by in the meantime.

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The Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself To Determine Your Future

the most important questionLife is funny. We all have hopes and dreams, we all have goals that we really want to accomplish. Yet only a few of us will ever see them come true. Most of us will continue to dream about the life we want while others see the riches of their success.

What is it that determines whether or not we will see our goals in life come true? What decides if we will do what we set out to do?

Is it what we strive for and want in life? No, everyone wants to be a millionaire married to a model. Not everyone succeeds with that goal.
Is it our intelligence that decides where we will end up? No, there are plenty of intelligent people who are bums and alcoholics.

What about networking? Is the people you know what determines your success in life? Not entirely, nobody can help you if you don’t take steps to help yourself.

So what is it? What determines whether or not we will achieve our goals? It turns out there is a simple question you can ask yourself to determine how your life will turn out.

It’s pretty basic, yet most people don’t take the time to ask it or don’t think to ask it. For those of us who do know the question, it is always good to be reminded of it every now and then. That is what happened to me recently as I have been doing some thinking and reading.

So, are you ready for the question? Do you want to know what infinite wisdom will help you change your life and determine how successful you will become?

Here it is

What will my life look like if I keep doing what I am doing?

Think about that for a second. It may sound really simple, and it is, but it is often overlooked. What have you done today? Did you work to accomplish one of your goals? Or did you surf the net looking for the latest gossip about your favorite television show?

Did you work on something that gave you pleasure and will help you in your future? Or did you work a job you hate and spend everything you made so your future self will have to keep working there?

Are there habits you have that you know are dragging you down and you wish you could change? Think about it.

What will your life look like in 5 years if you continue to play that video game all day?

What will your life look like in 5 years if you continue to eat unhealthy and don’t work out?

What will your life look like in 5 years if you continue to think negatively about every opportunity that comes my way?

Now obviously, there is room for downtime, but compare those answers to these ones.

What will your life look like in 5 years if you put an extra hour into your work each day?

What will your life look like in 5 years if you read an extra book a month?

What will your life look like in 5 years if you woke up early and went for a jog every day?

There is a difference, and that little difference is what separates the average man from the champions. The people who control their lives ask themselves these questions in order to change their behaviors.

Don’t simply asks yourself what WILL you become, asks yourself what CAN you become. What can you become if you take some more time to build yourself up to something magnificent? What can you become if you put in a little effort each day to change?

The little things really do add up. Learning 1 thing a day or doing at least 1 more productive thing each day means you will be one step closer to achieving your goals each day then you otherwise would be.

Before you go to bed tonight take some time to do a little experiment.
Look at your goals, than look at how you spent your day. Do they alight? Are you doing things that will eventually help you? Or are you doing things that will hold you back?

What have you done today that has pushed you closer to your goals? What can you change to get you where you need to be?

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lies in schoolWhat did you learn in school? It taught us some valuable information and helped us to see new the world through the point of view of the great thinkers of the past. School can help you expand your mind and learn, but if you are only learning what they teach you in the classroom, you may realize that you are missing out on a big part of life.

In fact school teaches us some lies about life, here are a few big ones.

1. Mistakes Are Bad

In school we are taught that making a mistake is a bad thing. If we mark the wrong answer on a test, it is marked wrong and we lose those points. In school our grades are completely focused on how many mistakes we make. If we make a lot of mistakes we fail the class, if we make fewer mistakes we receive a good grade in the class.

In the real world those who make the most mistakes and learn from them are the most successful. The reason is because those who make the most mistakes are the ones who try new things and challenge themselves.

If you are constantly in fear of making mistakes you will try to avoid things that may cause you to make those mistakes. Since you can’t be successful without taking chances and trying new things being afraid to fail can actually hold you back.

Failing isn’t the worst thing in the world, not trying is.

2. Grammar and Spelling is Essential To Success

I’m going to get a lot of English teachers mad here, but grammar and spelling aren’t the most important things in the world. In school we are taught to make sure we are spelling everything correctly and follow the basic grammar rules, in the real world we have spell check.

The most important thing in the world isn’t that you spell everything correctly and used the correct punctuation, but that you have something to say. There are enough people in the world who have been taught how to write a perfect paper, but don’t have a single original thought in their head. What the world needs is people who can break the rules and think creatively.

“The principle goal of education in the schools should be creating men and women who are capable of doing new things, not simply repeating what other generations have done; men and women who are creative, inventive and discoverers, who can be critical and verify, and not accept, everything they are offered.” – Jean Piaget

3. More School Is The Only Way To Become Successful

It’s generally accepted that if you want to be successful you have to go to college or get more education. While school is great if you want to become a doctor, lawyer, or any of the professions that require a degree, it is not the only path to riches.

Some of the most successful people in the world today are college and high school dropouts. Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerburg, Thomas Edison, John D
Rockefeller would all agree that even dropouts can have an alright life ;)

School is just one road that leads down one path. There are plenty of other ways to be successful without getting into tens of thousands of dollars of debt.

4. Once You Have A Degree You Are Set For Life

Does anyone know someone who has a college degree and is working the same job that they were before they graduated? We all do! just because you have a college degree does not mean you will instantly be a success.

In fact those who are counting on the degree alone are normally the ones who find themselves without work afterwards. To be a success in life you can’t simply rely on a system, if you did everyone would do it and it wouldn’t work anymore.

That is what is happening with our school system today. The number of people going to college each year is skyrocketing. As a result, it’s harder to find a job with just a degree then it was a few year back because… well everyone has one.

What you need is something to set yourself apart from the masses of other people with the same degree as you. Going above and beyond and networking with people, doing advance studying, planning your future, and getting experience is what sets you apart.

What matters is being able to set yourself apart from the rest of the world and offer something of value. Life is a constant struggle to be the best. It’s not as easy as simply taking a few tests and then you are done.

The one thing that will determine how successful you will be is how much effort you are willing to put in it to differentiate yourself and add real value to the world. That will be true whether you have a degree or not.

5. Teachers Are Smarter Then You

When we are in school we are conditioned to believe that teachers are smarter than us. That is why we pay attention to them, follow their rules, and don’t question what they are saying.

(The same can be said about politicians, professionals, and scientist. We listen to them and follow them blindly because we believe that they are smarter than us).

Eventually you realize that you don’t need to be super smart to be a teacher, you just have to be willing to work hard to understand a subject. Anybody can accomplish great things or understand new topics as long as you push yourself to grow and to learn it.
Likewise don’t be afraid to question those above you and look for alternatives. The world was once round until someone questioned conventional wisdom.

6. Only Smart People Are Successful

It’s easy to believe that only those who are born with a natural talent to understand new concepts stand a chance of being successful. We see it in school that some people can gets As on tests while others struggle to get a C.

It does not matter if some people are more talented than others, what matters is how much of an effort they are making in life. Most of us have enough cognitive ability to do whatever we want, we just need to put in the work and believe that it is possible.

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50 Wonderful Blessings To Be Thankful For This Year

The holidays are a time to sit back and think about the good things in your world. It is a time to be thankful for what you have and for what simply “being alive” has given you. It is a time to fall in love with life , to spread the love, and show the world what kind of a person you really are.

I believe that everyone should keep a list of what they are thankful for in their lives, and here are 50 things to keep in mind when creating yours.

1. Your Family

Your family will always be there when you fall down, when you screw up, or when you just need someone to tell you everything will be ok.

2. Your Friends

Great friends will be there for you to keep your life entertaining and to help you overcome your obstacles.

3. Nature

Nature is a wonderful thing, the trees and mountains make the landscape beautiful, they can calm you down when you are stressed and the trees can provide many medical breakthroughs to help you stay healthy as well.

4. Memories

Think about all the wonderful memories you have created in life. That is something nobody can ever take away from you, and it can give you much more joy in life.

5. Your Present

You are fully in control of what happens to you in this moment, What you decide to do will impact your future and others. That’s a lot of power, use it wisely, but enjoy life as well.

6. Your Future
You can do whatever you want in life. You still have a future, and still have many more memories to make.

7. Sense Of Sight

Think of how amazing it is that we can see the world around us. Not everyone has good eyesight, so if you do, enjoy it.

8. Sense Of Smell

flowers, perfume, fragrances, none of these would give us pleasure without a sense of smell.

9. Sense of Hearing

Without your sense of hearing it’d be hard to communicate and you’d miss so much.

10. Sense of Touch

The sense of touch gives us pleasure and makes life fun.

11. Sense of Taste

Where would we be without our sense of taste? Think about your favorite foods, mine are cheesecake, fruits, and pumpkin pie, without my sense of taste I’d never get pleasure from them.

12. Opposable Thumbs

Without Opposable thumbs we couldn’t build things, we wouldn’t have houses, cars, or technology.

13. Technology

It’s simply amazing that my cell phone allows me to be in Missouri, talk to my mom in California, my Dad in Texas, and my friend in Georgia all in the same day.

14. Human Intelligence

Not only does intelligence allow us to create a better life for ourselves, it also makes life more interesting.

15. Water System

Think about how amazing it is we even have a sewer system. Without it our waste would simply fall where it does and diseases would be a lot more common.

16. Houses

We have come a long way since living in caves. Without 4 walls and a roof, we’d all be trapped in the rain and snow in the winter and the blazing hot sun in the summer.

17. Opportunity

Regardless of who you are or what you do, you will always have opportunities in life, be thankful for them and take a few chances.

18. Pets

Pets make life more enjoyable they are like kids and can cheer you up when you are down.

19. The World

The World Is A Big Place, There is so much to see and do. Take advantage of it and enjoy it while you are here.

20. Your Body

Your body allows you to move around and enjoy life. Without it you’d have no way of experiencing this earth, so be thankful for it and take good care of it.

21. Human Kindness

There may be some bad in the world, but the bad is trumped by the amount of kindness that people will bring to the table.

22. The Internet

You wouldn’t be reading this right now without the internet. You wouldn’t be able to look up information, and interact with strangers anywhere near as efficiently as you would without it.

23. Movies

We all enjoy movies now and then, it’s nice to relax with your family and pull out a bucket of popcorn.

24. Love

Love is an amazing thing and there is so much of it on this earth. Find people as passions to fall in love with and you will be happy for the rest of your life.

25. Planes

It’s amazing how easy it is to travel across the world and see new things. That is a feat that wasn’t available in the past, so take advantage of it and see the world.

26. Cars

Cars make our life much easier, they allow you to travel across the world and give us the independence that we need to grow up.

27. Jobs

Be thankful for whatever job or career that you have, even if you plan on doing something else in your life, be thankful for what you have now.

28. Music

Music makes life enjoyable. It helps us relieve stress and just leave everything else behind.

29. Mistakes

Sometimes we don’t like to admit we’ve made mistakes in the past, but without them we wouldn’t have learned anything. Sometimes we need to make mistakes to grow, so be thankful for the ones you have already made, because you won’t be making them again in the future.

30. Laughter

Where would we be without our jokes and laughter? Enjoy life, live it up, and don’t forget to have a sense of humor.

31. Challenges

Life will always come with challenges, but that is what makes life entertaining. Use it to grow and to thrive.

32. The Fact That We Are Alive

Think of how amazing it is that we are alive in the first place to experience this world. One small change in physics and that wouldn’t even be possible.

33. Inventors

Without inventors we wouldn’t have the modern conveniences that we have today. Be thankful they existed and be thankful for what they brought into the world.

34. Kids

Kids are fun, they cheer us up when we are down, and they give our lives meaning. Never forget that somewhere inside of you there is a kid who still sees the world as an amazing place.

35. Clothing

Without clothing life would be harder and it would be impossible to go outside in the cold.

36. Holidays

Be thankful that we have holidays to take our minds away from work and to simply enjoy the world. We all need a break to have fun.

37. Thanks Giving

Be thankful that at least one day a year we can get together with people we may not always see and have a feast.

38. Christmas

Christmas is a holiday that brings out the best in people. It brings close ones together and encourages strangers to be kind to one another.

39. Lazy Days

Being on the go in fun, but having a day without any responsibilities can be fun as well.

40. Museums

Museums help us expand our mind and grow. Be thankful for them.

41. Art

Art can teach us how to focus on something and to do our best. It can also help us appreciate other’s hard work and shock us a little about what really is possible.

42. Hugs And Kisses

Sometimes we just need to give someone a hug and to let them know how much they mean to us.

43. Water

Without water, there would be no life. We couldn’t exist, be thankful for it because it really is a miracle that it even exist.

44. Camping Stories

We all have those stories about the campfire that we will always remember.

45. Parents

Parents are people who will always be there for you and always put you in front of their own needs. They do a lot for their kids so be thankful for it and return the favor if they need you to.

46. Food

We all have our own favorite foods. We all have foods that we are passionate about, enjoy them and indulge yourself every now and then.

47. Your Significant Other

Your significant other will always be there for you to help you get through the good times and the bad times. Love them and respect their needs.

48. Goals

Without goals nothing goets done. Enjoy the fact that we can have goals in life and we can push forward.

49. Hea;th

Even if you have a disease, enjoy that you are healthy enough at this moment to read this post and to do something in your life right now. Enjoy your health while you can, because there are plenty of people lying in a hospital bed right now without that privilege.

50. You Are The Only One Like You

Nobody else can replace you, you are the only person with your genes and specific thoughts. Enjoy that and give the world something positive to say about you.

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iaFdmj1384799367I’m still very new to my sales job, and I’ve learned a lot. One piece of advice I’ve been given is that I may know what I am selling and believe in the product, but I need to get more excited about it. I need to be able to put my energy into it and really show how amazing the product is.
Getting excited is key in sales, because how can you get someone else excited if you aren’t already excited yourself?

Getting excited about what you are doing isn’t just important for sales type jobs. Regardless of what you plan on doing, the more you can get excited about it and put your top energy into it the better off you will be.

No matter what you do or where you go, here are 7 reasons to be more excited about life.

1. It Helps You Follow Through

We all know that if you want to be successful at something you have to put energy into it. Life requires work, and most people simply put in just as much work as they need to in order to get by. Once that first minimum threshold is met, however, they tend to quit and do something to escape their work.

The reason people like to do the minimum amount of work possible is because they don’t get excited about it. They don’t enjoy the work and it is not challenging enough for them.

When you find something that you are truly passionate about it becomes a lot easier to put in longer hours and to work harder. In fact most of the time you don’t even realize how much you have been working on a project that excites you simply because, it excites you.

It is true what they say, “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”

2. It Helps You Convince Other People

Regardless of what you plan on doing or where you plan on going you need to be able to convince other people to do things or to help you along the way. If you are starting a new business, you need to be able to convince others that the service or product you are providing is worth the expense.

Not only that, you want them to be excited about it, you want them to want it so badly that they couldn’t possible live without it. This is where excitement comes along. If you want other people to be excited about your opportunity you have to be so excited about it that others will jump at the opportunity.

Even if you aren’t in sales or thinking about starting your own business you need to be able to sway others to your side. Try going into a job interview without any pep in your step and you’ll see that your attitude matters.

Get excited about life and get others excited for you, after all there is some truth to that statement, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” Get excited and help others be excited about you.

3. It Makes Life More Enjoyable

Learning to become excited about the little things in life really does make life much more enjoyable. Falling in love with life means that you are always looking at the positives and looking for opportunities in every area.

Think about how wonderful things were when you were a kid, everything made you excited and made you want to explore the world outside. The little things in life became much more enjoyable and everything was a miracle.

Once you grow older that feeling of constant excitement tends to die down a little, but it doesn’t mean you have to stop getting excited about life. With so much to learn and so much good in the world, there is always new stuff for people to get excited about.

4. It Helps You See The Positive

Learning how to be positive and how to be excited about life is kind of like 2 sides of the same coin. One compliments the other. When you focus on the positives and the abundances in life it is a lot easier to get excited about them.

Focus on what is exciting and what will help you improve yourself or follow your passion and you will be amazed at what will happen.

5. It Makes You Seek Out Opportunities

One of the reasons people who are optimistic and simply excited about life do so well is because they seek out new opportunities. The more you approach life with a curious attitude and the more you look for opportunities the more you will find those opportunities.

Look for the negatives and you will find them, but they won’t help you to get anywhere in life. The world is full of negative people blaming others for own circumstances, focus on the positives and believe that the world is your play thing and you won’t have to worry about never taking the chances you want to take or trying the things you want to try.

6. It Can Help You Stay Healthy

Being excited about life can help you to stay healthy. We all know that our attitude affects our health. When we are stressed out our bodies attack themselves and it accelerates aging. When we laugh and enjoy life it causes out body to fix itself.

It is well known that positive emotions and focusing on the good around you can drastically improve your health. Why not focus on the positives when it helps you to live longer, feel better, and enjoy your life?

7. You Only Life Once

Life is short. You will never be here again, so wouldn’t you want to spend your time being positive about life and excited about every opportunity? I know I would.

Learning how to be excited about life and focusing on the positives isn’t exactly something you can teach. It’s something you have to learn and something you have to reinforce. But once you break through the barrier and live life with a passion, it becomes much better and comes with more opportunities.

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