I don’t know about you, but not everything I did in my past has helped me out in my present. In fact, that is saying it lightly. Some of the decisions I made in the past seem to have hurt my life and my current situation.
I wish I would have focused more on school so my college GPA would have been harder, I wish I would have worked harder on my online businesses, and even though I’ve accomplished a lot in my life and experienced plenty, I wish I would have taken more chances.
Life is all about making decisions. Sometimes the decisions we make work out in our favor, and sometimes they don’t. It is natural to wish you would have done something a little differently or taken more chances in life. We all make mistakes, just look around at the people you look up to most and you’ll soon realize that everybody has faults.
But that doesn’t mean we have to sit around regretting the mistakes that we have made and curse our past self forever for investing in those beanie babies that were sure to be a hot collectors item.
Sometimes it is just better to write-off the mistakes we make and focus on our future, after all the future is what matter anyway. Before I get off track, here are 7 productive things that you can do instead of sitting around regretting the past decisions that you made.
1. Learn From Your Mistakes
We all make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we have to keep making the same ones. Life is a learning experience, so take what you have done so far in your life and examine it. What mistakes have you made? What decisions did you do that didn’t exactly help you out? What can you do in the future to avoid making those same mistakes?
Mistakes are actually healthy. If we never made them, we would never grow. If we simply avoiding making mistakes or doing something that means we have to risk failure we would never grow as a human being. We have all fell down a few times when trying to ride a bike, and we don’t regret the falling because we understand that falling is just a means to an end. None of us would have become the expert bike rider we are today, if we didn’t fall down, make mistakes, and learn from them.
2. Don’t Worry About What You Can’t Change
We can focus all we want on the problems outside of our control and it will never change a thing. The truth is if you focus on what you cannot change, it does not accomplish anything. You can’t change a bad hand that was dealt to you (even if you are the one who dealt it), What you can change is how you play the cards you are given.
If you are going to spend energy focusing on your future don’t waste it focusing on the things you can’t do anything about. Instead, focus on what you can do. What steps can you take to improve your position? What steps can you take to come out ahead? Those are the questions that will be worth asking.
3. Think About Your Options
So you messed up. How can you fix it? If something breaks, you should be able to fix it right? At the very least you should be looking for a way to overcome any bad situation. As you move forward in life you will learn that sometimes the best skill to have is the ability to focus on the good and plan the future instead of worrying about what might hurt you in life.
Everybody may fumble the ball, but the ones who are able to recapture their passion and move forward are the ones who will achieve ever lasting success.
4. Look For Opportunities
The old saying is true, “When God closes a door he opens a window.” You just have to be optimistic enough to look for that open window and crawl in. Focus on the positives and the opportunities that emerge. If you do, you’ll soon find out that even when something seems like it is the end of the world it really isn’t.
5. Think About What You Want To Accomplish
Now that you have looked at your options and thought about the opportunities, think about what you actually want to accomplish in life. Do you still have the same goals you had 5 years ago? Have your goals evolved? Where do you want to be in the future?
6. Make A Game Plan
Instead of focusing on what you could have done differently in the past focus on what you want to do in the present. Look at the options you have available and what you want to accomplish and decide on a fixed plan on getting there. In most cases, you can always turn things around, even if you think all hope is lost.
7. Accept That Nothing Is Perfect
Perfection does not exist! This is a hard one for me to accept. I would like to go to every job application with a 4.0 cumulative GPA and plenty of work experience, but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes we just have to shoot for the moon with what we’ve got. Life rarely is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t live a life you’ve always dreamed of. Give it your best try, forget the past and focus on the future, after all the past is over, the future is what matters now.
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